Legal and mental
health professionals and divorced or separated couples agree that what is most
important for the children of divorce or separation is for parents to
communicate effectively and cooperate when it comes to their children.
Huffington Post posted
another excellent article about co-parenting entitled The Co-Parenting Cheat Sheet” by Honoree Corder. Here is the link:
This is one of the best articles I have read on the
topic. Some of the especially important
points in the article include:
- [Don’t] assume [ that] actions of the other party are meant just to upset you…Your ex is probably continuing some of the same behaviors you overlooked when you were a couple, only now they upset you and you’re taking them personally.
- You might think your ex is the worst person to ever live, but you are the one who originally chose them. There’s nothing you can do about it now. Own it, and move on.
- Your ex is gonna do what they’re gonna do. You can’t control them now, you can only control you now. (How many times have I said this to potential divorce mediation clients?)
- Be as nice as you would be to the …UPS delivery guy. Use your manners, be a bit business-like, and end the conversation as soon as the needed topics have been covered.
As your children get older, they will have their own
relationships with each parent. Do what
you can to make them healthy. One day they will thank you.
