HuffingtonPost.com has many good articles relating to divorce,
separation and related topics. Today one of the articles posted talked
about whether it is better to consult with a Marriage Counselor or a
Divorce Lawyer if you are undecided about reconciling or divorcing.
Address to article is below:
I have another
suggestion: See a family law attorney/mediator. Both parties see
the attorney/mediator together. The mediator is neutral about the outcome
and provides legal and practical information to give the couple an idea about
what their lives would be like if they separated or divorced. Sometimes
just gathering that information is enough to lead a couple to either give
counseling another shot or decide to proceed with the divorce.
The goal of
mediation is to help the parties reach a mutual decision about what they are
going to do. The attorney/mediator has the legal knowledge and expertise,
as well as practical experience, with divorce or legal separation to help the
parties see their options realistically.
Marriage
counselors help the couple deal with the emotional aspects of their decision to
reconcile or divorce; divorce lawyers advise the parties individually about
what might be "best" for them legally. The mediator helps them
look at their own and the other party’s perspectives and work cooperatively, not
necessarily happily, toward a joint decision. It is much less stressful
for the couple, and their children, if they make these very important decisions
together and not rely on others who don't know them (attorneys, judges, etc.)
or their children, to decide for them.
9 comments:
Thanks for all the advice. My brother and his wife having been trying to work it out for a while but I think we all know that they need to just end things. I told him I would help him find a divorce attorney if that's how things end up. This is all really helpful.
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I can imagine how ugly some cases get, especially when it comes to family. There can be a lot of hurt feelings and emotions that get in the way. I think it is best to find a lawyer to help you with this kind of situation.
Gary Puntman | http://www.wilsonlawedmonton.ca
Finding a family law lawyer that can really help you out is very important. I know that without them, a lot of people would struggle with these kinds of things. You just really need to know what to look for.
Jak Manson | http://www.turnerlawoffice.ca/en/family_law.html
I think that both sides can offer some really great insight. While the counselor can help with the emotional aspect, there's got to be a lawyer there to help deal with the logistics of everything. You want to make sure that no one gets taken advantage of.
Rosie | http://www.turnerlawoffice.ca/en/family_law.html
This is really helpful. My close friend has been considering divorce for some time, but has yet to take any real steps toward dissolving the marriage. She should talk to some family lawyers and mediators to help her figure things out.
Sal Wesson | http://www.andrewbthieleandco.com.au/AndrewThieleCo2138/Page/22920/FamilyLawDeFactoRelationships.aspx
My buddy got home from work the other day and the house was completely empty. His wife left a note saying she was taking their son and leaving. This has blindsided him like crazy. What are the essential things to consider about a divorce lawyer?
jackhawkins1984| http://www.kalamarides.com/httpwwwkalamaridesbizpractice-areas
Great advice, thanks for the post. Divorce is such a difficult process. Using a mediator is a good first step to handling a divorce more smoothly. When my aunt went through her divorce, it was really hard for the whole family. I wonder if it would have made a difference if she and her now ex-husband had hired a mediator to help them move towards their separation. Of course, mediation can only go so far. I think it is important to consult a personal divorce attorney as well, since they have your best interest in mind if you decide to proceed with the divorce.
Karen Filipelli|http://www.benningtonattorneys.com/fam.htm
Thanks for the advice! I had no idea there were mediators available to help-- when my brother went through his divorce, having a third party would have been extremely helpful. Sometimes lawyers can turn into a battleground, but there are easier ways.
Jenn | http://www.hartlawofficespc.net
When my sister hired a mediator for her pending divorce from her husband, I thought for sure it was the final sign it was really over. But what I didn't realize was a mediator was different from a simple divorce lawyer. The mediator helped them talk out their problems and they decided to stay together thanks to the help they got. I learned a lot watching this experience.
http://www.jcohenmediation.com/lp/divorce-mediator-saratoga-springs-ny-jeffrey-cohen-mediation/
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